Emily Hughes Therapy
Soul Sisters - Finding Your Tribe
Updated: Nov 12, 2021
Recently, myself and two other women started a very small and private sister circle, just the three of us. One of the women is my close friend, a beautiful sensitive soul and the other is her friend, with equally as beautiful energy. It was very spur of the moment as we set it up but it felt right, and now the three of us spend hours sending each other book recommendations, sharing stories, supporting each other, discussing meditation, manifesting and healing. It's the little group chat I didn't even know I needed so so much and it's reminded me of how important it is to connect with like minded people as much as you can. As a sensitive soul you may find small talk and surface level conversations very draining and unfulfilling, so to be able to connect with others on a deeper level about the things that nourish your soul is so important.
It can also be lonely being a sensitive soul and deep feeler. I used to believe I would never find my people, my spiritual tribe. I felt different from my friends and family and was too nervous or ashamed to share what was really in my mind and heart so I just got stuck into the 'normal' world and saved my deeper more spiritual side for my alone time. Then gradually as I got a little bit braver and showed a little bit more of who I was, step by step, I started to meet more like minded people. These women who started to come into my life were older than me, very nurturing and maternal towards me, exactly who I needed as they each inspired me to grow. They have become my life long friends and still help me to grow in so many ways. I also knew that I still longed for women my age as well, who weren't yet mothers and were on a similar path to me. Over time, the more I put myself out there, the more I became visible to the right people and that is how some beautiful spiritual friendships have been made.
So if you are searching for your people, perhaps feeling isolated or different, unable to reach the deep levels you want to with those around you, take a moment to think whether you are showing enough of yourself for your people to see you?
Reflect on the following points with your journal:
How much of my deep and sensitive self do I make visible vs how much of me do I hide away?
What belief or belief system do I have that makes me feel I need to keep parts of me hidden? And can I begin to let that go and update my belief system?
If I was to show myself fully what would that look like? And what small daily steps can I take towards that?
Affirmation: I choose to be fully seen, and no longer hide who I am. My tribe is waiting to see me and I am ready to meet them.